Welcome to the unknown!
Wow! It’s been a long time guys and a big welcome to those reading my blog for the first time. I have to remind you to please read my profile to have a little understanding of how I draw my conclusions. I have to say in the last year a lot has happen and a lot of topics would have been fantastic to write about but one topic kept coming up for me and for a lot of the people around me. The things we don’t know in life if we were to do this, that or nothing at all can lead to frustration, stress, unhappiness and sometime the unknown can lead to despair.
Welcome to my new blog!... yes, it’s been ages, I have been doing stuff but doing nothing..hahaha. You know what I mean!.. As always I only write when I am inspired by something happening to me or my friends. This is not to say nothing has been happening but I always wait for that common denominator that cuts across to most people before I start. This topic has bothered me for so long but I didn’t have the right words or phrases to use. Somehow I couldn’t articulate it properly until now.
You know the feeling that things are just not happening for you can sometimes be overwhelming! And the frustration can really drive you mad. It is even tolerable when you can control what that is but unbearable when it is beyond your control and the people who are in-charge seem not to give a F*@k how you feel or may not even have considered you in the matter.
Guess what? It is even worse when these same people tell you that they represent you and that they understand how you feel. No they don’t!.... Ok before I digress to politics, I better return to the feeling of helplessness that can take over our situation and drive us to the verge of no return. Yes, it is not only man made problems, it can be of emotional dilemma, it can be financial, it can be about hurt, it can be about dream, it could even be about someone else. But that feeling that you can’t really place your finger on it, that feeling that you just know that you are stressed and it is getting closer and closer to pushing you over the edge and you just want to get away from it all… at this point I have to say if you feel this way all the time it means that you have started your journey to no return. But I hope this blog will put a halt to that and you can turn around and walk to success and your destiny.
The fear Factor of the Unknown
Now at the very point of my own entry into the worm hole of frustration and the painful reality to admit that yes I am frustrated too. I have been able to find the words to articulate what I wanted to say and to rescue so many others and to save us all from despair, because that my friend is a deeper hole to come out of. The numbers of young people (not that I include myself in the young people ha ha) that suddenly have heart problems, that give up, that hope for a better tomorrow but don’t know where to start from? You will be shocked as to how we have not just all gone crazy!.. the funny thing is ( funny as in silly not funny as in ha ha) there are still so many young people living well, with great hopes for the future and they know it will happen, there are those solving the problems of the world and there are still those recovering from the worst illness they have ever suffered from.
So what do we say to that? Some are frustrated and others are doing well, what should we take from that? Should we just say they are lucky to be from wealthy families (they probably are). Should we just say they are lucky to be who they are (they probably are. According to The Duke of Cambridge “I am fortunate to come from a loving family” basically I am a Prince”). Should we just take it that some are so unlucky in love and maybe in life that nothing really good comes their way? Or is there another way to look at this and to face up to the reality we find ourselves in. For some the search for someone to love or to be loved, for some the financial break through, for some the change of jobs for better pay or recognition, while for some it is to even find a job, for some the complicated relationships that drags them down, for some to stop living from day to day on very little, for some the frustration has led to despair, for some not to rock the boat of a relationship they know is over but can’t end it, for some to hope in the hopeless situation is like an insult to them because they have been at this level for so long.
I cannot say for sure that I have the answers to these problems but I do know for a fact that all things will pass in time. All things will pass us all and that when our time comes we will die and leave it all behind. If any of the above problems have not befallen you, then don’t worry about this blog, just enjoy the read and laugh about it. But if some of the above issues affect you and has driven you to the edge and you feel like today can’t finish fast enough, well I welcome you to the beginning of a new day. As I deal with issues on my blog, I find it therapeutic for me too because I am as open as I can be and as soul searching as possible for a man in his private study or room. One thing I have noticed is that if you look closely at people you will see pain, but in that pain you will see the determination to continue, never to give up. But I have to admit that sometimes I have seen the pain and a complete collapse of the will to fight that can be the most disheartening thing you can see in a person’s eyes.
Our greatest enemy to survival is fear of the unknown! That is exactly the reason it is crippling and very powerful, the fact that it is an unknown. If you want to do anything in life you are meant to calculate it, plan it and at least have an idea of the outcome. This is how life works right?... so imagine a lady who is in her late 30s/early 40s and really wants to be married with kids or imagine a man who is in his late 40s/early 50s who had hoped to be the director of a successful business all his life but has just lost his business ? On the face of it, it is a really bad situation and truth be told it does not look good at all!... Your greatest enemy sets in the fear of the unknown, because your rational mind and everything around you says it has become very difficult and probably you can’t meet a man now or you can’t start all over now. These comments are probably true to the extent that the probability to recovery is slim.
The fact Factor of the Unknown!
But I want to tell you that in that very fear of the unknown lies the answer and solution to the problem. The fact that it is unknown is a good thing!.. Yes I said it!.. it is a good thing!... for you and for many people you have simply accepted statistics as the sum total of your existence. Not only did you accept statistics but you took the negative side of the statistics because it allows you some sense of comfort in the pain, in accepting failure and believing that you did all you could and it is not your fault (and yes it genuinely may not be your fault if it is medical) and that there is nothing you could have done. Great! Just great!... but stop for a minute my friend and think. I asked myself the same questions. Why shouldn’t you be among the few ladies who will meet someone at a later stage in life, be married, have kids and be happy? Why can’t you be the older man who invited Kentucky Fried Chicken after all he was retired? Or be like Mr Dyson instead of crying about hovering the house make a better hover! I have not found anything written anywhere or in any culture that denies you hope as long as there is life! So the unknown does not have to carry fear with it. You have to look at the unknown in the face and say “ While I may not know what tomorrow will bring and while I may not at the moment see any good around, I am confident and certain without a shadow of a doubt that I WILL MAKE IT”
I know it sounds crazy to you right now, your home is gone, you can’t pay school fee, your business is getting worse, everyday letter from creditors, the doctors have told you it’s over, unable to have a holiday, unable to pay your bills and yes you can’t even go out because you don’t want people to know you are broke! My friend, I tell you with all that is in me and all that is created by God and for the very fact that you are alive. There is no reason why your tomorrow cannot be better than today, you will only fail if you stop trying, you will only be overcome by fear if you listen to her, you will only lose if you die of old age or natural causes. And if you die before it’s all done, then you have won because you never gave up and you would have left something for others to finish. So to me you are a winner, to me and to many others you are a champion. You are a god on earth to rule over it because your creator is GOD.
I see myself, all my friends and all of you who read this blog to become that which no man can take from you, your vision and your purpose. Now my friends let us arise and wipe those tires of pain, the hurt, the let downs, the things and people we have lost, the frustration that we have not reached our goals, let us now adjoin the battle of life with more certainty and more confidence in the knowledge that the Fear of the unknown is not for us because we now know that in that situation lies the answers to our problems. Because from now on we will look at the situation from a different perspective instead of with fear we will look at it with the laughter of victorious overcomes saying “ I WILL MAKE IT” because I am alive with vision and purpose!... If I gave you a photograph you would look at the front page to see the picture right? You will not look at the back because there is nothing there to see. Life has two sides no matter how blank one side may be.
I see the truth (the picture) about myself that I will overcome the frustration of the present time, I see myself that I will over the difficulties of the present moment and yes I see myself as a prince born of infinite peace and resource because of whose I am and yes you too are of such power and possibilities not because I wrote it or because you read this blog but because it is true. With a full knowledge that our GOD is alive and well!
So knowing what the fears are and knowing what the facts are about the unknown, knowing that the only thing you know is that nothing will change except you do something about it. Armed with this fact and the confidence that while you are alive there is hope, you my friend have become part of the solution to your problem “the unknown factor”
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